Mating Season

Ahh...Spring Fever...that time of year when extended sunlight acts as an aphrodisiac...seriously, it's scientifically proven! It reminds me of an article I read a few weeks ago about a matchmaker who has this 80/20 rule. She theorizes, if you find someone with 80% of what you're looking for in a mate, this is a viable match. If you move on, you're likely to find no better than another 80% person - simply a different 80%. Interesting!

Then the universe kept sending me a message. "True power is the ability to be true to your self." I wasn't hearing voices, but the number of ways the message came to me was a little "Field of Dreams-ish." How does this relate to mating season?

It occurred to me, the real match is the person you're willing to be at least 80% of your true self with. That's where the real potential lies. And the most important person to start with is yourself, because we are biologically built to mirror one another! Others literally reflect our energy. If you're curious about the science of this, look up "mirror neurons." So, the big joke, "it's all about me" isn't such a joke after all. To attract what we want, whether it's a mate, friends, or situation, start at the source - you!

With this in mind, I began asking myself some challenging questions. "Am I willing to speak my truth, regardless of what someone else might think of me? Am I willing to live my truth, even if it doesn't fit the clothes I might be wearing? If I'm not willing to be completely true to myself; do I then find that I'm a little suspicious of everyone else?!" This last question begins a trust discussion; I'll save that for another newsletter.

In turn, I find myself challenging identities I've created along the way about who I am - very cool stuff! And, I am abundantly clear: there is no greater power within me than the power to be true to all of who I am...and my willingness to speak it and live it is the manifestation of that power - just as it is yours. Try it! Ask yourself the questions I asked. And begin to notice if you're willing to give yourself "true" answers. If not, why not? What do you have invested in keeping the truth hidden? It is mating season, after all, who better to mate than your true self?!

Sharing the spring fever,
Joanne Lutz