Taming the “I Want” Monster

A 90-minute online workshop
May 11, 2022, 7pm U.S. Eastern

Wanting can be a tricky business.  Actually, that’s inaccurate.

What we believe about wanting is the only thing that makes it tricky.   

Unfortunately, those beliefs often cause pain.  When we hold mistaken assumptions about our wanting as the truth,  we disconnect from our own integrity - disrespecting our wholeness.  Ouch!   

Chances are, these thought patterns were learned over time.   

Perhaps you marinated in a stew of limiting thoughts in your home of origin - never specifically spoken, but always known in the undercurrent.   

Instead, you might have been told outright, "you're too greedy!" or "you always have to put someone else first, and then you might be able to get what you want."  

Maybe you learned it was ungodly to want. 

Or conversely, getting what you wanted meant you were special and deserved it (and not getting equaled not deserving). 

If you're like me, you absorbed this mistaken notion: "I can only have what I want, if someone else grants me permission to have it." 

Or a companion thought: "I must have a legitimate reason to get what I want."  

What do you do with your want? 

Maybe you learned to not ask for what you want, to avoid vulnerability, disappointment, or potential judgment. 

Then, when you don't get what you want, do you find you resent the person who didn't know to give it to you?

Perhaps you go the other way, taking what you want, and begging forgiveness later. 

Most baffling of all, you may have experienced guilt because you've gotten what you want (even if you didn't ask for it).  What's with that?! 

UGGH!   

If any of these scenarios ring the inner gong of knowing within you, I get it.  The struggle is real. 

Here’s what I’ve learned to be true: 

• You do not have to keep doing it the same old way. 

• It is possible to manually update beliefs that have been operating in the background of your life, impacting your mundane day-to-day and life-altering decisions. 

• When you update, you open to a new world. One in which you are empowered to ask for what you want.  You learn to establish enough trust between you and you, that when you make the leap to ask, you know - deep in your bones - even if you don't get what you're asking for, you are still absolutely deserving. 

• Asking for what you want, free of guilt, without requesting permission, allowing yourself to be first, can yield intense feelings of joy and excitement!  Because it's new, some fear may come along for the ride.  That's okay - totally human.   

I guess the question is, are you ready to move toward joy and excitement? 

If you answer yes, bring a scenario you're facing to this class.  Together, we'll begin to sort out what beliefs you have running in the background.   

Based on your unique situation, you might receive something to practice in your day-to-day life.  One step to create a shift - a part of that manual updating process - encouraging more space and possibilities for the joy and excitement of what you want.